4 Things You Should Never Say at a Funeral — No Matter What
Funerals are emotional, fragile moments. People are grieving, memories are heavy, and every word carries weight. Even with the best intentions, certain phrases can deepen someone’s pain or come across as dismissive.
Here are four things you should never say at a funeral — no matter what.
1. “I know exactly how you feel.”
You may think this sounds comforting, but it often does the opposite.
Grief is deeply personal. Even if you’ve experienced a similar loss, their pain is unique. Saying this can make it seem like you’re minimizing their emotions.
What to say instead:
“I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m here for you.”
2. “They’re in a better place now.”
This phrase can feel comforting to some, but extremely hurtful to others—especially if they’re struggling to accept the loss or don’t share the same beliefs.
In moments of raw grief, most people want presence, not explanations.
What to say instead:
“I hope you find comfort and strength during this time.”
3. “At least they lived a long life.”
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